Not everyone is necessarily looking for their perfect soul mate. They may simply want to find someone who is a nice person of the right sex, reasonably mature, fun to be with, and a good partner for you to be with and spend most or all your time with at your stage in life. That requires someone with whom you like enough and have enough in common that you can enjoy each other thoroughly, talk about life, have fun doing things together, share the normal kinds of daily life things – shopping, cooking, eating, living together, taking care of your place, paying bills, being with friends and family, etc.
And ideally, you want to be lovers with that other person, not just a friend (although being best friends is also great). You want the both of you to be totally and happily in love with the other. Right? Well, of course!
If finding a love relationship has been difficult for you, you need to examine your relationships with yourself. Do you have difficulty in fully loving yourself? Why is that? Do you want other people to love you even though you don’t love you? Remember you are part of God, and therefore you are totally worthy of being loved and of loving others, and you are loved completely and unconditionally by a divine and infinite being.
Begin by forgiving yourself completely for anything that you feel was or is less than your expectations of yourself. The Universal Consciousness does not ask or expect you to be perfect. So forgive yourself, appreciate yourself, and love yourself – you who are part of that divine and infinite being.
Also examine your relationships with other people. Are you open with and trusting of other people, based on equality of how you view yourself and them? You may have been hurt, perhaps even greatly, by other people in any number of ways in the past. But people have a way of holding on to hurt and blaming their faults on those hurts and on other people, and you may be one of those people. If so, it is time to give up the blame game and instead take responsibility for what you want in your life, not on what happened in the past.
Ask Universal Consciousness to fill you with love and forgiveness, so that you can redirect it inward to forgive yourself and outward to forgive others. Choose right now to forgive each and every one who has hurt you – completely and honestly now and forever. This may be difficult if you’ve not yet learned and mastered forgiveness, so stay with it (even if takes days or weeks) until you can let go of the past. Don’t hang on to the hurts, which are in the past, but instead begin building the future you and the future life you want to start now.
Envision that future life as completely fulfilling, happy, and filled to the brim with love. Choose that new you and that new life! Be that loving person beginning this instant. Know you can create the life you want. Feel what the love and future life will feel like for you. Imagine it and feel it coming into being right now – complete with the loving partner you are seeking!
Remind yourself of your intentions multiple times each day and know and trust that you are bringing them into reality. For as you hold on to your intentions for a better you, a better life, and a loved one, you will begin to change day by day and week by week into that person who is lovable and loving, capable of a life fully lived and of attracting a friend and lover. The Universe wants you to have those things too! You will attract good people into your life, and among those you will find your love partner.